Do you find yourself in a constant state of Overwhelm?
The dictionary defines Overwhelm as to bury or drown beneath a huge mass, defeat completely or to give too much of a “thing” to someone.
I have often felt like I am ”drowning” in overwhelm. There have been days, weeks and months where I felt like I was barely keeping my nose above the “water” of motherhood. The overwhelm of having too much to do led to resentment from not being able to get it all done, and then that would lead to shame from thinking something was wrong with me for even feeling that way in the first place.
What if I told you that there was nothing wrong with how you are feeling?
We are living in a time and a culture that breeds the idea that we can do it all. But it comes at a cost.
Many of my clients are suffering under the weight of overwhelm to the point that they think that they have to sacrifice themselves to take care of their duties in the roles of mother and wife. They see no other option. They can’t seem to find a way to be a busy mother and an individual at the same time. They become lost under the water of overwhelm.
Too much is too much.
Here is the good news. Being overwhelmed is a feeling and it is caused by your thinking. That means, that regardless of how much you are trying to do, your thoughts will make this experience manageable or unbearable. I have found that there are lots of tools and techniques that will help me when I am feeling overwhelmed, but nothing as good as noticing what thoughts I am having that are causing it.
Sometimes my brain tries to make these thoughts mean something about me and the condition of my life – that I’m lazy, inefficient, or my life is out of control. If you feel like I do, just know none of that is true. We’re feeling overwhelm, and that’s okay.